New Gathering: Honoring Memories, Embracing New Connections

New Gathering: Honoring Memories, Embracing New Connections Sana’s friends were an integral part of our lives. I always made an extra effort to have them over, spending time with each of them as if they were part of the family. It was never just about opening our doors for her friends; it was about building a bond, one that went beyond Sana and extended into our own unique connections. Her friends held a special place in our hearts, not only because of the joy they brought her but because, in many ways, they became like an extended family to us. This connection with her friends was different than what I had with Maahir’s. With Maahir, my relationship with his friends was more casual; I knew them well, and they were always welcome, but I hadn’t built that same close-knit bond. As parents, we like to think that we’re always doing equally for each of our kids, but, over time, you realize that you often end up doing more for the one who needs you most. For Sana, who was naturally quieter and more introverted, her friendships were significant lifelines. As she grew, I could see how those connections helped her, providing comfort and companionship, especially as her struggle with anxiety became more pronounced. In her later years, depression shadowed her, and while she was incredibly strong, the need for support deepened. Her battle was a winding one; finding the right medications was difficult, and the journey was rocky. I often spent more time with her friends because I knew how much they helped her, offering a kind of support that even I couldn’t fully give. In caring for them, I was caring for her in a way. Now, almost five months after losing her, I’ve invited Maahir and Serena’s friends for dinner this Saturday. I find myself feeling the same joy and energy that I once had when planning something for Sana’s friends. It’s like there’s a part of me that wants to bring back those echoes of laughter and warmth that used to fill our home. I remember the light in Sana’s eyes whenever her friends would arrive, the easy banter, and the sound of pure, joyful chatter that would fill the house. That atmosphere was a gift, a reminder of the love and community that surrounded her. I hope to recreate that, even if just a little, this Saturday with Maahir’s friends. It’s my way of weaving a new layer of connection with them, of filling our home with laughter and shared moments once again. I want to honor those joyful memories with Sana’s friends while building new ones with Maahir’s circle, finding comfort in the laughter and chatter that reminds me, even if briefly, of all the beautiful moments we shared. In gathering together, I’m reminded that our connections to others are ever-evolving, and that even amid loss, we can continue to nurture and grow new bonds. It’s a small act, but one that feels healing, and, in some way, brings us closer to the warmth we once knew.